Traditional meditation training involved little instruction and relied on the arising of tranquility and insight.  In his book “Diamond Mind:  a Psychology of Meditation,” master teacher Rob Nairn notes that Western meditators often don’t come as easily to the natural arising of insight and will often use the practice of meditation to suppress psychological process instead of promoting it.  So Nair’s approach is to emphasize making “friends” with the mind and developing an attitude of playfulness towards practice.

Meditation is a process that balances concentration with letting go.  We practice over and over again allowing ourselves to be fully present in each arising moment.  Why?  Because it’s only in the present moment that a new understanding can arise.  Everything but the present is ruled by either memory of the past or imagination of the future.   This is a very important point for those of us who are trying to conceive.  That journey can be so encumbered by past disappointments and future fears and hopes that the present is almost completely obscured.  Together, though, with the help of breath and awareness we can begin to carve out a moment of “now” in which peace can arise and deep healing can occur.

For today, let’s try to sit in the now.  Don’t freak out if you feel like your mind is a Niagara Falls of emotions and thoughts.  This is NOT failure, it’s success!  You have become aware of your mind. As you continue to practice this awareness will grow and mature until you learn that you are actually a peaceful, content being experiencing a roller-coaster ride of experiences.  Here’s a very simple technique for staying present:

Sit quietly, either in a comfortable cross-legged position or in a chair with your feet flat on the floor and your spine straight.  Close your eyes and place one hand on your lower abdomen.  Inhale deeply through the nose and feel the breath move down into the belly, expanding and moving the hand outward as if you’re filling up a balloon in your tummy.  Exhale through the nose, feel the belly begin to  deflate as you softly count the number “10.”  Inhale again, and with the exhale softly say to yourself “9.”  Inhale, exhale 8…and so on down to “1.”  As you count down from 10 to 1, feel as if you are consciously unwinding the forward momentum of your mind.  Feel as if you are a car exiting the highway and slowing down to a country road where you have time to look at the beautiful scenery and be present.   Once you begin to practice this technique daily you may find that after you’ve counted down your ten breaths you’re happy to sit a bit in peace.  Enjoy!  That’s the present moment.

If the exercise above was challenging, don’t despair!   Pulling Down the Moon will be offering a Mindfulness for Fertility class in conjunction with the psychologists of Fertility Centers of Illinois starting April 28.  Stay tuned for registration info and details…

First off, I am not one for giving things up, especially when it comes to food.  Thankfully I do not have the digestive issues, weight issues or other symptoms of allergy that are associated with wheat gluten sensitivity and, frankly, I adore bread.   Yet, last Tuesday I decided that I was going to experience a week without wheat (W3).

So why, on earth would I do that?  First, while I try not to be swayed by media, I have to admit that one of the precipitating factors was an article I read in the Huffington Post entitled “Three Hidden Ways Wheat Makes You Fat.” Written by Functional Medicine guru Mark Hyman, a man who clearly does not like wheat one little bit, the article outlines did introduce some facts about wheat that caught my attention.  Like the fact that the wheat we eat today is different from that eaten by our ancestors.  Modern wheat, called dwarf wheat, has been genetically altered over the years to be starchier and contain stronger gluten.  More dramatic is Hyman’s description of how dwarf wheat prompts the creation of “gluteomorphins and gliadorphins,” brain- and behavior-altering chemicals similar to the endorphins created in response to pleasure and strong exercise.  This, according to Hyman, prompts craving and bingeing.

Now that’s alarming. My quick Pubmed search, however, did not reveal any clinical data about gluteomorphins (Hyman calls it gluten-morphine) or gliadorphins, apart from one study looking at gluten and autism symptoms.  Yet, the basic premise of Hyman’s article, that the wheat we eat now is not our grandparent’s wheat, rings true to me.  I also know that if I were to binge on anything it would be crusty bread and butter.  In my world of moderation, bread is my siren song.  Could I be “addicted” to gluten morphine?

The second, and more sensible reason I decided to go W3, is that reducing wheat consumption is a component of our new Lifestyle & Weight Loss Program, First Line Therapy for Fertility – more about this program soon!  And, like everything we recommend at the Moon, I wanted to make sure that I could do it myself before I recommended it to another.

I don’t want to bore you with a daily food-frequency or play-by-play of my W3, but I did notice a few interesting things when I chose to eliminate this source of calories from my diet. What follows is a short and sweet summary of the kernels of wisdom I gleaned  from a week without wheat:

• Kernel #1:  Wheat consumption is a habit.  When I was faced with a week  without wheat none of my go-to foods were available.  I had to find different choices for breakfast (steel cut oats), re-think my “side” of bread and butter at Panera (choose an apple), and stretch for a different side dish at dinner instead of buttered noodles (try amaranth).  All in all, the process felt more like an exercise in breaking food ruts than giving up a staple.
• Kernel #2:  The results were subtle.  After a week off wheat, I cannot report any particularly striking changes in my overall health.  However, as I look back at the past week I am sure a nutrition analysis would reveal a healthier, more varied and nutritious diet than my habitual eating pattern.  I became painfully aware that I could point to “lazy choices” I made every day – chicken wraps at Whole Foods, pasta or noodles with dinner, dried cereal and breakfast breads  as well as lunchtime sandwiches – that kept me from better choices.  This was an empowering insight.
• Kernel #3:  I can see how cutting back on wheat would make a diet more fertility-friendly.  If used intelligently, limiting wheat frees up calories for healthy fats, encourages the consumption of more nutrient rich foods and discourages the consumption of processed foods.  If used unwisely it could also be a disaster.  Gummy bears are gluten free.
• Kernel #4:  This last point, that processed foods rely heavily on wheat, is a no-brainer.  Think of all the crackers, dried cereals, low-fat cookies, cakes and frozen meals on offer at your local supermarket.  When wheat is out you have to find a new pasture  to graze.  Also, when shopping this week I realized that there are plenty of gluten-free foods that are highly processed.
• Kernel #5:  Addicted?  In my case I would argue that I’m just plain lazy.  I learned this week that I rely heavily on processed grains to the exclusion of other nutritious foods.

When Tuesday came around and I was done with my W3 I was surprised that I didn’t rush to the coffee shop for a muffin. Maybe I’m strange, but I enjoyed this process of diversifying my diet. I think I’ll let it ride for a bit until some of my newer, healthier choices become habitual.  I know that a lot of women out there are going gluten-free for fertility.  For some it’s a therapeutic decision because they are dealing with the very real impact of gluten sensitivity and allergy.  For others, the goal might be weight loss. Whatever the reason, there’s one piece of advice I can give anyone making dietary changes:   Make your changes from a place of exploration and inquiry. Empower yourself to know what is right for you.  It’s helpful, too, to work with a nutritionist to maximize nutrients that support fertility.

Have you made dietary changes as part of your fertility journey?  Have they felt empowering or onerous?  We’d love to hear your experiences.

For more information about nutrition and fertility, check out Tami and my book The Infertility Cleanse:  Detox, Diet and  Dharma for Fertility.  We have fabulous nutritionists at Pulling Down the Moon who are available in-person or by phone for an empowering consult to help you optimize your diet for health and fertility.  Visit www.pullingdownthemoon.com for more information!

Patients often ask me is exercise safe to do when trying to conceive and how much is too much.  Traditional Chinese Medicine’s (TCM) standpoint is that light to moderate exercise strengthens the qi (energy) and builds the blood, but it becomes counterintuitive when performed excessively so.  Too much exercise actually depletes the body of qi and blood which will negatively impact fertility.   Since the general focus of treatment is to enhance and circulate blood flow to the reproductive organs so that they work more efficiently, I advise not over exercising to where you feel exhausted from your work out.  You should feel energized and good after the correct workout routine.  Everybody is going to have a different definition for what too much and too little exercise is.  You really have to pay attention to how you feel.  Generally, exercising at least three times a week will help to improve circulation of qi and blood to the reproductive organs nourishing them, and it boosts musculoskeletal tone.

Another aspect according to TCM is taking into account the patient’s Chinese medicine pattern.  For example, in a patient that is deficient of blood it is recommended that they do not work out while on their period so as not to lose any more blood of which they are already lacking.   Another example is if the patient only has qi deficiency (not including blood deficiency) then light, not excessive, exercise during menstruation is going to be a positive thing that will boost the body’s qi.

If patients are undergoing a medicated fertility treatment cycle then light exercise, like walking or gentle yoga, according to TCM is good, even every day, leading up to the patient’s procedure, whether that be an intra-uterine insemination (IUI) or an embryo transfer which is associated with an in-vitro fertilization cycle (IVF).  I ask that the patients avoid walking however for a few days after their IUI or embryo transfer.  For more information regarding TCM’s take on exercise and enhancing your fertility please feel free to contact us at anytime or call to make an appointment!

Anna Pyne LAc, MSOM, FABORM

Research published in the journal Obstetrics and Gynecology reports that women who exercised 4 hours or more times per week for 1-9 years were 40% less likely to have a live birth and were almost three times more likely to experience IVF cycle cancellation.  They were also twice as likely to have an implantation failure or pregnancy loss than women who did not report exercise.  This research reinforces previous data showing that strenuous exercise can disrupt reproductive hormone regulation.

A common question that arises at Pulling Down the Moon is whether or not women should give up exercise when trying to conceive (ttc) and/or undergoing A.R.T.  For many, exercise is an important tool for relieving depression, controlling stress and regulating body weight.  Putting the message out there that women who are “ttc” should abstain from exercise could be dangerous – we’re already a highly sedentary society – but data such as the study referenced above suggest that we should look closer at the ways in which exercise can interact with our reproductive system.  An understanding of the mechanisms at work may help us make more intelligent exercise choices.

Another recent study dove into this question by comparing the menstrual cycles of sedentary and exercising women who were matched for age, body weight, BMI and age of menarch.  The results were astounding.  In the sedentary group, only 4% of women had menstrual dysfunction.  In the exercise group only 50% of cycles were ovulatory and 50% were abnormal.  Within the abnormal cycles,  29% demonstrated Luteal Phase Defect (a short luteal phase) and 20% were anovulatry.  In a further study of this same sample of women, the researchers found a correlation with “high-DT “(high drive for thinness) and menstrual dysfunction and found that REE (resting energy expenditure) was decreased in these women, a sign that they were experiencing negative metabolic effects of chronic negative energy balance.

So What Is Energy Balance?

Energy balance is a simple equation that nutritionists and exercise physiologists use to conceptualize the factors at work in weight loss and weight gain.  The energy balance equation is:

When Energy In = Energy Out, body weight is stable

When Energy In > Energy Out, there is weight gain

When Energy In < Energy Out, there is weight loss

Long-term negative energy balance in females is associated with decreases in circulating metabolic hormones (like thyroid hormone) that regulate overall metabolic rate, and with increases in baseline stress hormone levels like cortisol.  Often, shifts in energy balance can occur without weight loss, especially in long-term exercisers.  Call to mind that trim gal at the health club who spends 60 minutes a day on the elliptical trainer but never gets thinner.  While she may view the exercise session as justification for a candy bar, her body perceives it as a major “fight or flight event.”  Although her weight does not change, hormonal and metabolic shifts like the ones described above can still occur as the body slows down non-essential systems (like reproduction) to preserve energy.  Signs that a woman may be in negative energy balance are anovulatory cycles or the absence of menstrual periods.

Should Women Give Up Exercise when Trying to Conceive?

The answer to this question is a resounding “no!”  Exercise has also been shown to relieve depression, control stress and regulate a healthy body weight – all very important elements for conception.  What women do need to consider, however, is how to exercise in a way that is “fertility friendly.”

Intensity:  When we talk about exercise intensity we are talking about how HARD your body works during a particular exercise activity.  Intensity of an exercise determines its energy requirement, or how many calories you burn while exercising.  Thus, excessive intense exercise can create  a negative energy balance.  This may be a good thing when a woman has significant weight to lose but it is not a good thing when she is at a healthy weight.

Impact:  Exercise can be either low- or high-impact.  High impact activity is and exercise in which both feet leave the ground.  Examples of high impact exercise are running, aerobic dance that involves jumping and jumping rope.  Spinning is also high impact, although this form of cycling exercise does not involve jumping, the intense resistance and sprinting used in spin classes can place enormous impact on joints and muscles.

In general, high impact exercise can be detrimental to fertility in one of two ways.  The first is through the production of endorphins.  Endorphins “natural pain killers” produced by the body in response to strenuous exercise.  While these chemicals serve to mask pain signals and allow us to enjoy long-duration, strenuous exercise, they can also disrupt reproductive hormone regulation.  Second, high impact exercise is generally more intense than low impact exercise, causing the excessive energy drain described above.

What’s the Right Exercise Mix for Fertility?

Fertility-Friendly Exercise: Fertility-friendly exercise is moderate-intensity (heart rate at 60-65% of maximum), low-impact and of medium duration (30-45 minutes, 3-4 times per week).

Good Exercise Modalities:  walking, swimming, recreational bike riding, resistance training and hatha yoga

Relaxation Training: Learning to relax through practices like breathing and meditation are an important part of any fitness program.  Taking 20 minutes a day to meditate or just breathe can help to reduce stress and lower circulating stress hormones.  In addition, cross-training and including rest days where the body can rebuild and restore is also very important.

Nourish Up through Diet: In two recent blogs, Nourishing Up for Fertility and Energy Balance for Fertility – A Holistic View we explore the idea of creating a nourishing lifestyle that changes the paradigm of daily life.

For many women, letting go of an intense exercise program can be difficult.  Services like acupuncture, massage and nutrition counseling available at Pulling Down the Moon can be very helpful in making the transition to a more nourishing and fertile lifestyle.  Click here to learn more/book an appointment.

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Margaret Wertheim M.S., R.D., L.D.N.

by Margaret Wertheim, MS RD

Sometimes it can feel like following a fertility friendly diet is expensive, especially when you may have extra costs for fertility treatments and medications. Here are some ways to help keep your food budget in check:

1. Prioritize organic meat and dairy. Due to the use of hormones, pharmaceuticals and pesticides in the production of meat and dairy, these items should be your highest priority to buy organic. If completely organic dairy will put too much of a strain on your budget, buy the rBGH-free (recombinant Bovine Growth Hormone) dairy. While this doesn’t guarantee the animals have been given feed raised without pesticides, at least you know the cows weren’t treated with hormones. Similarly with beef, if organic or grassfed beef is out of your price range, at least make sure to buy beef that is raised without hormones, as estrogen is routinely used in raising conventional beef.
2. Choose lower cost cuts of meat. It’s much less expensive to buy a whole chicken than boneless skinless chicken breasts or any one part of the chicken. Alternatively, buy some grassfed ground beef, which costs less than buying steak. Use it to make some homemade chili, tacos, enchiladas, meatballs or any of your favorite recipes. Serve with plenty of vegetables.
3. Eat eggs. They’re nutrient-rich, and even the most expensive organic eggs don’t cost more than $5 per dozen. A dozen should provide the protein for 6 breakfasts at less than $1 each.
4. Learn about the Dirty Dozen. These 12 fruits and vegetables have the highest pesticide residues, so spend some extra money buying organic spinach and strawberries. When it comes to avocados and onions, it’s ok to buy the conventional version since these are some of the Clean 15, or those fruits and vegetables with the lowest levels of pesticide residues.
5. Buy in bulk. Save money by buying whole grains, beans and nuts and seeds in the bulk section. It’s usually significantly less expensive than buying the prepackaged version.
6. Cook at home instead of eating out. You can serve a delicious home-cooked dinner for 2 at a fraction of the cost of eating out or ordering in. When you have extra time, stock up your freezer with healthy homemade soups and other meals that you can quickly reheat after a long day at work when there isn’t time to cook.
7. Do price comparisons. Some of the major chain grocery stores actually have higher prices in their natural foods section compared to your natural foods grocery store or Whole Foods. The opposite can also be true. Check out fruit and vegetable markets, where they often carry some very reasonably priced organic produce. This may require trips to multiple stores, but it can definitely help to trim your food budget.
8. Eliminate high-cost low-nutrient foods. An excellent example of this is cold cereal. Cold cereals are generally quite expensive, not well-digested and their vitamin and mineral content is generally due to a spray-on multivitamin. Meanwhile you can generally buy 1 pound of organic oats in bulk for less than $2. Cut out other foods like packaged cookies and sweets. These items tend to be pricey and have no fertility benefits.

by Margaret Wertheim MS RD

When it comes to fertility and pregnancy, folic acid, iron and calcium are the vitamins and minerals that tend to get much of the attention. We would argue that there are quite a few other nutrients that don’t get nearly enough attention, and one of these is choline. Choline is an essential nutrient that your body can synthesize in small amounts, but the majority must be obtained in your diet. While you may constantly hear about the importance of folic acid for the prevention of neural tube defects like spina bifida, research indicates that higher choline intake during pregnancy is associated with lower risk of neural tube defects as well. In addition, choline is converted to betaine in your body, which assists in the conversion of homocysteine to methionine, thus preventing homocysteine levels from becoming elevated. Elevated homocysteine is associated with increased risk for cardiovascular disease and miscarriage, and in one study was associated with poorer egg and embryo quality in women with PCOS undergoing IVF. Furthermore, choline is a precursor to the neurotransmitter, acetylcholine, which is involved in memory and muscle control. In a study in rodents, when mothers consumed higher levels of choline, their offspring had significantly better memory throughout their lives. Thus choline intake during pregnancy may have a very long-term impact on memory and brain function from infancy into adulthood.

According to the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, the average choline intake in pregnant women is only about 338 mg/day, while the daily requirement during pregnancy is 450 mg. Daily choline needs increase to 550 mg while breastfeeding, as breast milk is a rich source of choline. Good food sources of choline include eggs, meat and fish, dairy, legumes, and certain whole grains, nuts and seeds. Vegans and vegetarians with limited intake of eggs and dairy products are at increased risk of having a choline-deficient diet. Very few prenatal vitamins contain any choline at all, and those that do usually contain only very small amounts. Luckily, Prenate Pro and Prenatal Plus both contain 200 mg choline, which can give you the extra boost you need to ensure you’re meeting your daily choline requirement. That being said, it’s also absolutely essential to include choline-rich foods in your diet on a daily basis.

References:
Linus Pauling Institute at Oregon State University: Choline

Caudill, et al. Pre- and Postnatal Health: Evidence of Increased Choline Needs. J Am Diet Assoc. 2010; 110:1198-1206

Berker, et al. Homocysteine concentrations in follicular fluid are associated with poor oocyte and embryo qualities in polycystic ovary syndrome patients undergoing assisted reproduction. Reproductive Endocrinology. 2009; 24(9):2293-2302.

Zeisel, et al. Importance of methyl donors during reproduction. Am J Clin Nutr. 2009; 89( suppl):673S-677S.

Enter the smoothie.  Like the “salvage stew” that many of our moms created out of the produce drawer, a smoothie is a place where we can chuck in lots of nutritious ingredients, press a button and, presto!  A satisfying treat that is quick, nourishing and satisfying.

With these challenges in mind our Pulling Down the Moon nutritionist Margaret Wertheim has created some smoothie recipes that are not only nutritious, they are filled with nutrients that support fertility.  In the recipes below, Margaret experiments with almond milk and coconut water as the base of her smoothies and suggests add-ins like probiotic powder, antioxidant and fiber-rich Organic Superfood and our delicious hypo-allergenic rice protein powder, ProMeal. Please note, too, that these smoothies do not use crushed ice.  According to Traditional Chinese Medicine and Ayurveda, a fertility diet does not emphasize cold foods.

Basic Shake
2 scoops vanilla or chocolate ProMeal
1 cup water, almond milk, or coconut milk

Almond Fruit Smoothie
2 scoops vanilla ProMeal
1 cup almond milk
¾ cup mixed berries or peaches
optional: ½ banana

Coconut Fruit Smoothie
2 scoops vanilla ProMeal
1 cup coconut milk OR ½ cup coconut milk and ½ cup water
¾ cup mixed berries or peaches
optional: ½ banana

Yogurt Fruit Smoothie
2 scoops vanilla ProMeal
½ cup full-fat plain yogurt
¾ cup mixed berries or peaches (a splash of addition liquid may be needed, depending on the kind of berries/fruit used)
optional: ½ banana

Weight Gain Shake
2 scoops vanilla or chocolate ProMeal
1 cup coconut milk
2 tablespoons natural peanut butter or almond butter
optional: ½ banana or berries

Mango Kale Smoothie
2 scoops vanilla Promeal
1 cup coconut water
1 tablespoon almond butter
1 leaf of kale
¾ to 1 cup mango
Dash of cinnamon

Other healthy additions: Probiotic powder, nuts (walnuts, almonds, Brazilnuts), oranges, organic spinach or Swiss chard for greens you won’t even taste.

*To maximize nutrient and antioxidant content of any of these shakes, add 1 scoop of Organic Superfood*

So, you think you eat healthy?  Read on and you might be surprised.  The low-fat dietary pattern that is generally touted as healthy is actually low in nutrients that have been shown to be important for fertility.  To illustrate this point, we charged Pulling Down the Moon nutritionist Margaret Wertheim, R.D. to run a nutritional comparison of two diets 1) a typical low-fat diet taken directly from the practice manual of the American Dietetic Association and 2) a fertility-friendly meal plan based on Pulling Down the Moon’s nutrition program.  The results were  striking.

Here’s the low-fat diet based on recommendations from the American Dietetic Association:

Typical Low Fat Diet - Click to enlarge

And here’s the fertility-friendly eating plan per Margaret’s recommendations:

Fertility-friendly Diet - Click to enlarge

At first glance, both diets look pretty healthy.  The calorie content is the same – just around 1830 calories.  Yet, a nutrient comparison reveals a different story.   Head-to-head the Pulling Down the Moon plan blows the typical low fat diet pattern away in key fertility nutrients.  The low fat diet proved deficient in  iron, vitamin E, vitamin D and very low in the omega-3 fatty acids EPA and DHA – all nutrients that are linked to optimal fertility and healthy ovulation.  The difference?  The fertility-friendly diet derives about 10% more of its calories from healthy fats at the expense of carbohydrates.   Foods in the fertility-friendly diet are also less processed – note the absence of  ”diet” dressings,  as well as”low fat” and “sugar free” foods.

Dietary Comparison LF vs. FF - Click to enlarge

This exercise illustrates a central concept of Pulling Down the Moon fertility-friendly eating that we call “nourishing up.”  In short, nourishing up means that even at your perfect body weight you may still be getting insufficient nutrients for optimal health and fertility (read more about nourishing up in a previous post here).  Remember that current dietary guidelines are based on the idea of preventing deficiency (helping us survive), rather than promoting wellness (helping us thrive).  Even  ”healthy” diets such as the low fat diet above are missing the mark.   Note that this low fat diet doesn’t even include guilty pleasures and convenience foods like McDonalds, Starbucks and Lean Cuisine. Also note that the fertility-friendly diet is rich and satisfying, and doesn’t feel like “diet food.”  Our belief is that many women end up starving themselves of important nutrients in order to lose or even maintain their weight.

For this reason we recommend that women who are trying to conceive seek out a nutritionist who specializes in fertility to learn important steps they can take to optimize their diets for fertility.  In addition we also offer the Pulling Down the Moon Pregnancy Prep Program, a three part program of nutritional supplementation that includes Prenatal Plus, a prenatal vitamin that has been optimized to include nutrients like CoQ10, extra B-vitamins, omega-3′s and choline, Probiotic Powder to support digestion, elimination and the immune system, and our Organic Superfood a 100% certified organic fruit and vegetable drink to provide antioxidants their most effective form – that of whole food.*

Have we convinced you that diet is important?  Click here to book an appointment with a Pulling Down the Moon nutritionist or call 312-321-0004 (Chicago)/301-610-7755 (Rockville) for more information.

*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration.  These products are not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

]]> http://pullingdownthemoon.com/blog/2012/01/03/nutrition-is-key-for-fertility-a-tale-of-two-diets/feed/ 2 http://pullingdownthemoon.com/blog/2011/12/02/fully-fertile-holiday-package/ http://pullingdownthemoon.com/blog/2011/12/02/fully-fertile-holiday-package/#comments Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:18:52 +0000 admin http://pullingdownthemoon.com/blog/?p=2962 Embrace and enhance your fertility journey with our Fully Fertile Holiday Package! This gift includes Pulling Down the Moon’s own book Fully Fertile, our new Fully Fertile Companion Yoga DVD, a Universal Fertility Intention Bracelet from SheBeads, our Nourish ARTea blend and one box of 100 tea filters.

Fully Fertile  &  Companion DVD

Pulling Down the Moon Co-Founders Tami Quinn and Beth Heller created a holistic 12-week program for optimal fertility. Newly revised and updated.

After writing our book, Fully Fertile, we had lots of requests for a companion DVD that would allow the reader to move with ease from the written text and photographs into the yoga practice. All you’ll need is your yoga mat to begin this 12-week do-it-yourself in home fertility program that includes both the book and the companion yoga DVD.

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Universal Fertility Intention Bracelet

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This blogging experience brought me to a deeper meditation on the topic of loss and what a dirty word “loss” has become in our society.  From childhood we learn that winning is the way of the world and that loss is somehow shameful.   For those of us who played sports or competed in academics, we may have learned that you “can’t win them all.” But this lesson was inevitably tied to getting up, brushing off and working harder to win the next challenge.  But some losses aren’t part of a game.  Some are completely out of our control like miscarriage or multiple failed IVFs and can leave us completely without context or coping mechanisms. In such cases the pain of loss becomes blurred with the shame of failure that we haven’t been able  to “brush it off” and win the next challenge.

Over Thanksgiving I spent a week at the home of an out of town friend who had recently experienced an almost unspeakable loss.  Her daughter, a high school student, had committed suicide just before Christmas just three short years ago.  I was nervous about the visit, the rawness of spending a holiday like Thanksgiving in the face of such loss.  Would it be a week of sadness and tragedy?  Would I continually say the wrong thing?  Would I feel guilty that I had my beautiful boys at a time of year that centers around gratitude and joy?

All of the questions mounted in my heart and throat as we got closer to our destination.  I realized I, too, was really uncomfortable with loss.  I didn’t want it around me, I didn’t want it to ruin my holiday and I didn’t want to have to judge myself the way for the way I was feeling…which was stressed out.

But from the moment we walked through the door it was clear this was a very special gathering.  There was true sadness – yes – but there was also a very pure kind of light that we sometimes find when everything has been stripped away and people are simply together, being there for each other and grateful for the opportunity share life.  The strength of my friend and her husband was inspiring. No one “put on a brave face,” tears flowed but stories of their daughter flowed as well.  Laughter rang.  The ladies did yoga and the guys played soccer in the yard.  The meals were delicious and we cooked and ate with relish.  And not for one moment did one soul there take anything for granted.

Our two-day drive home from Colorado was a meditative time for me.  As I reflected on the powerful wave of gratitude that had washed through me the previous week I tried to understand why it felt different from holidays past.  This Thanksgiving, facing my fear of loss meant I had to drop my “conditions:”  I didn’t spend time worrying about things that could go wrong or the bad things could happen at any time to “steal” my happiness away.  How could I do that in the face of such strength and courage?   When we got closer to Illinois, and I passed an exit for Peace Road (that’s the photo above), I had a little epiphany.  This vacation had dissolved just a little bit the patterns of holding, grasping and fearing that often lie just beneath my joy and keep it from being truly radiant.  For several days I felt the lightness of simply being. To be truly present and grateful we must somehow learn not to fear loss.

So epiphanies are insights, not extreme make-overs.  Learning not to fear loss is a life’s work.  It is the work of enlightenment that spiritual teachers like Jesus and the Buddha have been trying to teach for ages.  Tonight before I sleep I will say prayers for health and happiness.  I will do everything in my power to keep my loved ones safe and sound.  I will work hard to make Pulling Down the Moon a good place to be.  That’s a very human thing to do – and I do believe prayers help and our intentions shape our lives.

Yet watching my friend live her loss as pain, but not failure, I have been deeply moved.

Loss is pain, not failure.  Failure is the judgement that we place on our own efforts.  Loss can also reveal courage, strength and love that has not yet known it’s own strength.  And when the fear of loss disappears, the richness of the present moment is revealed.  Somehow I saw this distinction more clearly this weekend.  And that is something for which I am truly thankful.